Today, we’re chatting with Freda Hobbs. Freda is a life coach, HR generalist...and she sells sex toys! She is also an expert with Campowerment, a yearly women’s retreat. A graduate of the University of Virginia with a degree in English, she has worked in both the public and private sectors as an educator and human resource professional.

In our conversation, we’re discussing:

• How Freda’s Inner Critic impacted her direct sales business
• Using data to tell our Inner Critic to shut up
• What our Inner Critics actually LOOK like
• The connection between life coaching and selling sex toys
• How our relationships with our spouse are connected to our success in all areas of our lives

Key takeaways:

“People just don’t feel empowered because they don’t know where to get the information or they don’t even know they already have it.”

“You have to remember what your WHY is...if the work is getting in the way then that’s not why I...

In today’s episode, we’re chatting with Cheldin Barlatt Rumer, CEO of i-g Creative and host of This is it TV.  She’s a seasoned marketing executive and executive producer of an interactive online program which connects her growing community to influential trendsetters, promotes new and exciting products and services and shares engaging and inspiring stories.

Most recently, Rumer has developed an effective yet cost-effective online marketing course and program called SCREAM YOUR DREAM. This digital, hands-on, educational tool has been designed specifically to support the needs of small businesses owners, entrepreneurs and independent sales professionals who are looking to take their marketing efforts to the next level while achieving their realistic and measurable on-going business goals. Rumer’s clients and community gathers each day within her online SCREAM YOUR DREAM Facebook Group.

During the conversation, we chat with Cheldin about:

• How Cheldin...

On this episode of the Dethroning Your Inner Critic podcast, we’re talking to Emily’s mother Ellyn Mantell. She is an Ostomy coach and mentor as well as a motivational speaker. We’re diving deep into what it means to face life-threatening illness and overcoming the limiting voice of our Inner Critic so we can model authentic living to our children.

In this episode, we’re chatting about:

• How Ellyn’s Inner Critic tried to be “better” than everyone else’s Inner Critic
• Why helping other people can be the key to helping us dethrone our Inner Critics
• What happens when we choose to not let health obstacles stand in our way
• The example our mothers set for us help us understand our truth
• You will have a better life when you admit that you’re human
• When we’re real with the world, our children will be able to do the same
• We become an action or reaction to our experiences

Key Takeaways:

“I started seeing my daughters...

On the first episode of the Dethroning Your Inner Critic podcast, we’re talking to Joanna’s mother Judy Fox. She has 40 years of experience as a psychotherapist in private practice. She has a dual Master’s Degree in Therapeutic Education and School Psychology, as well as being a certified Hypnotherapist.

In this episode, we’re chatting about:

• How the Inner Critic can show up no matter how successful you are or how much inner work we do.
• The distinction between our worry and the voice of our Inner Critic
• How Judy can tell that her Inner Critic is on her throne (and how she is able to dethrone her).
• How to get familiar with the Inner Critic’s repetitive patterns
• How our struggles become our greatest lessons
• Our language creates our reality
• The role Judy’s Inner Critic plays in her parenting

Key Takeaways:

“When it’s my Inner Critic, it’s far more focused on me than it is about what’s going to happen and when.”

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The reports of the suicides of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain have precipitated numerous conversations on social media as well as in family living rooms. This is so remarkable because these conversations are rarely held in public.

People who may be prone to thinking about suicide are those who have a strong ability to live in denial and cover up what they are experiencing internally.  They often put on a façade and enroll the world into believing that they are fine, while hiding the pain they are really experiencing.

We live in a culture that encourages pretense.  We pretend that everything is fine and good so that we can post happy images on social media and look like our lives our problem free.  We have ordinary conversations about emotional issues; relating to emotional pain as something to hide, something we are ashamed of. If these conversations occur at all, they are usually spoken to a therapist, or coach, or to certain close friends.

For someone who is...

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 Hey Dethroning Tribe!

This weeks message is a special shout out to all you parents out there. As parents, we dream about who our children are going to be, how they might be like us, how they might be different from us, and how we can raise them to be happy and successful in life.  While this dreaming is a normal part of parenthood, many of us wake up one day only to realize that our children are just different than what we expected.  

Because we have expectations of who we want our children to be, and how we want them to behave in their lives, when they don’t fit this picture, we may automatically react from a place of trying to fix or change them to fit our expectation.  If we can’t fix or change them, we may feel that we have failed as a parent, or are not doing a good enough job in raising our children. And as our children continue to grow, our fear of messing them up can continue to grow, too. Sound familiar? You...

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Hey Dethroning Tribe!

Spring has finally sprung!  For many, this time of year is about renewal.  The winter coats are put away, the daffodils are out, the sun is shining, and the days are longer.  Some feel the pull to spend more time outside, clear the clutter, maybe take on a new eating and exercise routine…. get out of the hibernation mode of winter!

 For others though, a new season is reason for the Inner Critic to hyper-focus on what’s missing in life.  The newness of Spring is just another reminder that others are happier (turn no farther than your Instagram feed for proof), everyone is on vacation and you’re not (thank you Facebook), life is just better for that person over there (compare and despair).  Even worse, because this new season is Spring, your Inner Critic jumps right into shoulding you by saying, “It’s Spring.  Everyone loves Spring. You should too....

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We are all very familiar with the Golden Rule: treat people the way you want to be treated.  But what if you are someone who feels let you down by the way people are treating you?

Here’s a twist on the Golden Rule that people rarely consider:  When the people you love are not treating you the way you want to be treated, perhaps it is because you expect them to give you what you have not learned to give yourself.

When you have not learned to give yourself the love, kindness and compassion that you need, you can become easily triggered by another’s behavior.

For instance, if your Inner Critic frequently speaks to you in disparaging ways, you may become overly reactive to the smallest bit of disrespect from your teenager despite knowing that this behavior is typical of a child this age.  If your Inner Critic makes you feel like you are not valued or important enough, your spouse’s forgetfulness to check in with you...

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Are You Sleepwalking Through Life?

Many of us unknowingly sleepwalk through our lives. We have repetitive thoughts that play on a continuous loop.  We listen to the same worries, the same negative beliefs, regrets,“what ifs” and shoulds' and shouldn’ts day in and day out.  When we sleepwalk through life, we become stuck, dissatisfied and unable to see possibility for ourselves.

Does this sound familiar to you?  We have good news! It doesn’t have to be this way.  

“Waking up” to your life takes intention, commitment and consistency.  Taking on a daily practice of reflecting on your thoughts, even if for 5 minutes a day, can break-up your sleepwalking habit causing you to be more awake and alive.  

Here are some targeted questions we encourage our clients to ask themselves during reflection.  We invite you to take them on daily for a few weeks and then let us know what you begin...

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Happy March, Dethroning Tribe!

This month we are taking a deep dive into the connection between our Inner Critic and the way we treat our body.   

What many don’t recognize is that our relationship to food and the way we treat our body is a direct reflection of our deepest held thoughts and beliefs about ourselves, which we very often push away rather than take the time to reflect upon.  

You see, these deeply held thoughts and beliefs began when we were very young.  When we were young children, we were simply pure love. We had no concern with what others thought, and danced and sang at the top of our lungs like no one was watching!  

But then, something happened.  It’s the moment we got hurt, embarrassed, or in some way felt like we weren’t okay.  We ALL had a moment like this.  And it is from this moment that our Inner Critic is first born.  Your Inner Critic voice decided that...