5 Steps To Be Less Judgmental

relationships Oct 25, 2017

I will admit it. I hate how judgmental I can be. But the truth is that human beings are judgment making machines.

How many times have you formed an opinion of someone before you really got to know them?

How many times have you felt judged by someone who doesn’t really know or understand you?

Most of our judgments of others come from fear and a need to prove that we are "right" about the way we live. If we are wrong, we are flawed in some way. And because it is scary to look at your flaws, we automatically try to feel good by finding flaws in others. 

The judgments we have can teach us a lot about ourselves. In order to be less judgmental, we have to have a willingness to examine ourselves.

Here are 5 steps to being less judgmental:

 

1.  Be willing to admit that your judgments of yourself (and others) are reflections of trying to live up to your ideal standards.

For most of us, our ideal version of ourselves is somehow different than who we are now. We...

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5 Steps To Overcoming Body Image Issues

self Oct 25, 2017

As a therapist, I work with a lot of people who struggle with compulsive eating and body image issues.   Many of my clients have been on many different diets, and have lost the same 10, 30, 50 lbs. over and over again.

We are a culture that is obsessed with appearance, and many people set out to lose weight so that they can look better.  The diet industry is a $60 billion per year industry because it targets emphasis on food and weight as the problem.  As a result, millions of people are literally at war with themselves, struggling to deal with their food compulsions, beating themselves up on a daily basis for “having no willpower.”  It is this ongoing war, strengthened by images in the media and cultural messages, that produces a culture of self-loathing people.  

For most, the belief behind the war is “once I am thinner, I will feel the way that I want to feel about myself and my life.”  What most people fail to recognize...

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Three Ways to Make Gratitude A Habit

gratitude relationships Oct 24, 2017

Every person who signs up for coaching with me or enrolls in one of my workshops is looking to change something in their lives that is causing them to struggle. 

They want to save their marriage. 

They feel like they're failing as a parent. 

They want to have the courage to change their career. 

The list of what people want to fix or change about themselves (or some aspect of their life) is endless. But the solution to any struggle you have boils down to one simple step: Practice love and gratitude. 

Too often, we habitually (and automatically) live in fear and try to control the situation. We go through life believing that something in our lives needs to change in order for us to feel the way we want to. It's easy to believe that when our circumstances are different someday, we will feel different. 

Of course, this belief just leads us to try to control our circumstances so we can fix how we feel. This makes us more anxious and uncomfortable makes us...

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