5 Ways to Combat Stress and Burnout in Your Career

podcast May 26, 2020

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Hey Dethroners. Today I want to talk about your Inner Critic and your career because I think this is one of the places where our Inner Critic screams the loudest. And I am certainly no exception, which is why I can support people in gaining freedom and peace from their Inner Critic because I have had my own journey with my Inner Critic as I have built my business.

I have had a lot of twists, turns, unexpected setbacks, and failures. And through it all, dethroning my own Inner Critic has been the only way that I am able to stay centered, grounded and at peace.

And I work with a lot of business owners, entrepreneurs, coaches and executives who began working with me because the stress, overwhelm and burnout they feel professionally has also caused a ripple effect in their relationships, their physical well being, and their overall life satisfaction. We have become a culture that is so used to operating on top of stress that it is just considered...

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Mind the Gap

podcast May 19, 2020

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Hey Dethroners.  When I was 22 and graduated college, I visited London.  Sadly that was the last time I was there and I am dying to return. But one thing I remember was the subway system in London called the Tube. And I remember when you were getting on and off, there was a recording that said, “Mind the gap” and just repeated it over and over. And for some reason, that stuck with me. 

Now I think I remember it so clearly because my entire life’s work with dethroning your Inner Critic is about minding the gap. But the gap is really the empty space between our true Inner selves and the false, mistaken identity we have thought was us for most of our lives, because we are listening to our conditioned Inner Critic thoughts and mistaking them for us.  So I want to talk today about how you mind the gap. 

In my work, I work with really accomplished women:  female leaders, C-suite executives,...

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THIS is the Reason You're Feeling Stuck in Your Life


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Here’s a fact you may not know: The average human being thinks 50,000 thoughts PER DAY. 

Now if I asked you to identify a theme around what MOST of your thoughts are about...what would it be? 

If you are like most humans, most of your self-talk is about yourself, and most of it is negative. 

This is Inner Critic territory - you’re thinking about where you are failing, imperfect, not enough, being judged, upsetting others, or even "too" successful. I want to talk to all of you about YOU!  All of us think we have some idea of who we really are. 

So many women are living life with their Inner Critics in their ear thinking THAT is who they are. 

That's what I want to talk about today - who we THINK we are and who we REALLY are.

We have developed an identity from our childhood experiences, from our parents and siblings, our idea of what it means to be a girl, a woman, a wife, a...

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Building Extraordinary Relationships

podcast May 12, 2020

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Hey Dethroners!  Today I want to talk about how to build extraordinary relationships, even when your loved ones are letting their Inner Critic’s run their lives.  Now, if you have been listening to me for a while, you know that  it is our minds that determine our entire world. And this goes for everyone. So, any relationship can go south very quickly because when it comes to conflict, you are NEVER fighting about what you think you’re fighting about.  So, all of our relationships are really opportunities to expand into our fullest potential, or to stay stuck.  

Our Inner Critic is the voice in our mind that talks to us all day, every day.  It is not just the voice of criticism, it is the voice of almost every thought we have.  It is actually our MISTAKEN IDENTITY that we have thought for much of our lives to be our true selves, but it is anything but.  And when we mistake our...

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How Is Your Happiness Like the Weather?

podcast May 05, 2020

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Hey Dethroners!  This week in my Mastering Your Mind program, we are talking about designing your future using a completely different mind...and here is where everyone gets tripped up with designing a new future: Everyone wants to find a way to feel good. And most people think that the way to feel good is to make sure that our lives moving forward match our pictures. 

But in a sense, this is what we do when we are trying to design our future the way we want it to go.  Our ability to imagine the future is actually hard-wired into our DNA.  It has helped us to survive in some cases because as human beings, we have the unique ability to plan for the future.  But here’s where imagining our future can backfire, and cause all of our suffering: What if you thought it was your job to make sure it was sunny and 80 degrees outside every day?  That is completely stressful because it’s not possible. 


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The Hokey Pokey IS What It's All About

podcast Apr 28, 2020

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Here is a question to consider:  “What is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” 

We don’t live like we have one wild and precious life.  We live more like, “Someday I will finally have the life I am meant to live.”  And then we try to solve all of the problems and obstacles that we think are preventing us from living that life. 

And it is trying to solve all of our perceived problems and obstacles, that is at the heart of why we all suffer and struggle. It is the seeking of the answers outside of ourselves that leads to more chaos.  We look back at our past to prevent past pain from repeating itself.  We try to find the things we think we will need moving forward so that we can feel fulfilled and free.  Ultimately, we try to find the answer to the question, “How do I get my future to go the way I want it to?”   

This is...

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The Art of Allowing and The Zac Brown Band

podcast Apr 21, 2020

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Hey Dethroners!  I have been spending a lot of time this week thinking about, writing about and talking with people about the art of allowing. Here is what I mean by this: I used to believe that I had to work hard, be a go-getter and make all of my life go the way I wanted, needed it really, or so I thought.  I was completely attached to the idea that the direction of my life had to go exactly the way I wanted it to go and the closest people in my life should live their lives the way I thought they should. 

And I had no idea that I even had this attachment. I thought that was the way you made sure life was good. This was such a blind spot for me. I spent years of my life in a lot of intensity, frustration and control.   Can you relate to this? The awakening for me came when I began to create the concepts of Dethroning Your Inner Critic. Because, we teach what we most need to learn, right? I had to see that the veil between who...

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Stop the Waiting Game

podcast Apr 16, 2020

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Hey Dethroners! I want to talk with you all about this waiting game that we are all in right now. We are waiting for predictability.  We are waiting to see when we can return to the parts of life we miss. When we feel scared, anxious and uncertain, that is our go-to response. We wait for something or someone to change.  And until something changes, we continue to feel anxious, fearful, hopeless.  

We are all experiencing a ton of emotions right now. And when we feel emotions that make us uncomfortable--like sadness, anxiety, frustration, anger--we tend to get stuck there.  We become stagnant and the automatic thoughts in our minds go into overdrive from one negative thought to the next.

And then we wait until something outside of ourselves changes so that we can feel better.  We did this before this pandemic. But instead of staying stuck in our pre-pandemic thoughts that left us feeling uncomfortable emotions, we...

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The Real Way Back to Feeling Safe

podcast Apr 07, 2020

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Hey Dethroners!  This week I want to discuss the feeling of safety that we are all trying to get back to. I know that these past few weeks have been a roller coaster of emotions. One minute I am calm and the next minute I am panicked. One minute I am feeling somewhat normal and the next I am wondering if life will ever be the same again. One minute I am feeling love and connection for my kids, and the next I am ready to explode on one or all of them. 

We are all in the throes of trying to deal with our own emotional roller coasters, all while trying to hold onto some remnants of our old life. And nothing really looks like our old life at all right now. We are all getting tired, exhausted really, because we’re trying to find the illusion of safety and predictability and that is not possible right now. 

Now, prior to this pandemic, most people lived their life with the illusion of safety and predictability. There is...

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Managing Your Mind in a Crisis

podcast Mar 31, 2020

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I want to talk about how to manage your mind in the best way possible during this pandemic. This week, I have been offering coaching to as many people as I can possibly reach. I have been running free Zoom groups, going on Facebook live, and getting on the phone with past and present clients.

Now more than ever before, it is imperative that we know HOW to think instead of just allowing our automatic minds to do all of the thinking for us. So right now, you are probably having a lot of different thoughts from one moment to the next. Thoughts like:

When is this going to be over?

How is this going to impact our economy?

How is this going to impact my kids? my job?

What is going to happen to me? Am I going to be safe? Is my family going to be safe?

And you might be having thoughts about our government that are making you angry. So when you are having those thoughts, you are experiencing a whole lot of stress and anxiety. And what most...

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