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What Jim Morrison Can Teach Us About Life

Jim Morrison once said, “People are afraid of themselves, of their own reality; their feelings most of all…. feelings are disturbing."

From childhood, we are taught that pain is evil and dangerous. Because of this, any time we feel pain, we try to hide that we're not happy. We'll do anything to avoid those negative emotions. 

In the decades that I've been a psychotherapist, I've discovered that we're really creative in how we try to avoid our pain. We'll attempt to eat the bad feelings away. Some people will drink, use drugs, or gamble to avoid these emotions. Others become workaholics or even exercise to excess to avoid that belief that they'll never be happy. 

In fact, many of us spend more energy trying to keep away from these difficult feelings than it would take to actually face our fears. 

We are conditioned to believe that the definition of happiness is freedom from pain or difficulty. So many of us believe that feeling negative or painful feelings will prevent us from being happy and we should be avoided at all costs.

As a culture, we assume that you can't be happy and fully feel painful feelings. In fact, many believe that if we allow ourselves to feel what is really inside our minds these painful emotions may take over and prevent us from ever leading a happy life. 

The truth is, as Jim Morrison said, our pain is actually meant to wake us up!

In order to lead the lives that we want, it is crucial that we are able to be honest about our feelings. We need to actually look at the thoughts and feelings that are happening inside our minds...even if it’s hard stuff!

There isn’t a human being alive that doesn’t struggle with some difficult feelings at some point in his or her life. It is astounding to me that we are not formally educated on how to actually feel negative and difficult feelings.

The fact is that allowing ourselves to feel the pain, rather than running away from it, is the key to the freedom that we all so desperately crave!!

The key to happiness comes down to guts. By that, I mean the willingness to look at your fears and the guts to face them. Right now.

Feel them.

Be present to them.

If you can embrace those same feelings you've designed your life in order to avoid, you will find freedom, joy, and contentment! 

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