Anger Management

anger Oct 25, 2017

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Many people who we see in our practice struggle with anger.   Anger at their spouses, anger at their parents, anger at their children, anger at their partners, anger at their bosses, anger at their friends. They come in feeling very justified in their anger, and seek ways to change the other person so that they can feel less angry.


Anger over time turns into chronic resentment, which then affects the dynamics of their relationships, not to mention their overall mood. What most of us do not see is that much of our anger has its source in unfulfilled expectations.

When we expect our kids to be better behaved, our partners to be less self centered, our bosses to be more appreciative, our parents to be more supportive, or our friends to be more thoughtful, we don’t realize that we are setting ourselves up to be disappointed at best, and downright angry at worst, because they don’t fit our pictures.

We are not saying that these pictures are wrong. We are saying that it is the attachment to having them be met that leads to getting angry and staying stuck there! As you probably already know, this doesn’t feel very good! Sometimes our expectations far exceed the reality about what is possible. Sometimes the child we expect to be better behaved is having a bad day. Sometimes our partners are just not up to the task! Letting go of the attachment to our pictures can give us some relief from our angry feelings.

When we are less angry, we can see people more clearly for who they are, and who they may never be. Basically, we can learn to love the good, and not focus as much on the bad. When we can accept the people in our lives exactly as they are, and exactly as they are not, our lives become more satisfying. When we have more acceptance of the way a person is, we can actually practice letting go of our expectations and pictures. If you want less anger in your life, you need to be willing to let go. This is the road to freedom.

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